Of course, babies’ brains don’t work as complicated as we do. Their desire and emotional needs are much simpler than adults. They’ll hear us from the fifth month. They can’t understand what we say, but their mental development has evolved to distinguish our tone very easily. They can distinguish from our tone that we’re stressed or relaxed and happy. They also learn about the effects of these hormones because the hormones we secrete during stress reach them. Hormones secreted by a peaceful mother also have a relaxation effect in our babies. Happy mothers’ babies know the taste of happiness. Mothers under constant stress feel in an unsafe environment due to the discomfort caused by the constant secretion of stress hormones.
All the effects of the outside world pass on to babies through their mothers. Even the voices reach them after they cross your mother’s body. At this stage, the voice they hear the most is your mother’s heart beats. While experiencing all their functions, hearing all the sounds and feeling all your emotions in its own way, the mother’s heart beat sound is always there for them. Babies somehow distinguish between normal, healthy and happy heart beats. Thanks to these heartbeats, they fall asleep, play and rest. The human brain symbolizes most information in the fetus as well as in adulthood. Here, a quiet heartbeat symbolizes calmness, safety and love.
Since a peaceful mother who calms down has calmed babies, can these voices also be effective in baby care after childbirth? There’s been a study for that. In this study, which was conducted during the time when babies were left in mass rooms, they published calm mother heartbeats from the tape every day to one of the baby rooms in the hospital. They were expecting a positive effect, but the effect was bigger than they thought. Babies ate more, gained more weight, had better breathing, cried less and became less ill.
Of course, your heartbeats increase or decrease without your hands. It’s hard to control our heartbeat. But there’s an easy part about it; Our feelings. We can better understand our emotions and work more effectively with them. With the effects of emotions on our body, we leave positive or negative effects on our baby’s developing brain. Knowing that is reason enough to reconsider our behavior once again.
It is now known that the subconscious of babies occurs when it is still in the womb. That’s why you unwittingly leave a big impact on your baby’s character during your pregnancy. These effects are positive in conscious parents, while others are subconsciously placed in the baby’s subconscious in the form of traumas. This issue is now being studied as prenatal, i.e. prenatal traumas. In fact, psychologists specializing in this subject give parents training to ensure that these traumas occur at a minimum. While child psychologists talk about children’s problems in children, prenatal psychologists are working for the positive development of our unborn child.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that in every exciting thing we come to think of, or in our instant stress, our baby will be immediately negatively affected and this effect will last for life. No, that’s not how it works. In the face of the stress of daily life, the hormones we secrete also pass on to the baby, allowing them to adapt to these changes gradually. So the stresses that babies experience in the womb make it easier for them to adapt to life. Conditional reflex-based learning techniques must be effective in order for negative effects to be permanent in the baby for life. In other words, the baby should learn this as a result of a certain period of recurrence of negative effects. The most impression that leaves the most marks at this stage is that the baby is not wanted. Babies perceive it somehow.
In one incident, the baby was found not to suck her mother after the birth. Whatever it is done, the baby refuses to breastfeed and never sucks. Your doctor, who’s very interested in these issues, came up with an idea. They asked a mother who had just given birth to breastfeed the baby. Even though she didn’t know the baby, she immediately accepted this new mother and eagerly absorbed the breast. To investigate the matter, the doctor detailed the baby’s mother and questioned the pregnancy period; He didn’t find any infections or trauma when he was investigated. However, when the issue deepened, it turned out that the mother never actually wanted the baby, that she was not ready for pregnancy and that she was completely pregnant at the heart of her husband and hated her entire pregnancy. So our baby is trying and rejecting herself from this mother who doesn’t want to be harmed by growing up with feelings of rejection all the way through pregnancy. Babies are born with such a detailed consciousness. Of course, this would be a loving bond between the baby and the mother, but it is very clear that it will take a long time.
Yes, babies learn in the womb and even communicate with you. A study first discovered that babies were kicked in the face of a noise. However, this answer did not occur when a device that vibrates in the uterus is used. Then they used this device to create noise and then in the uterus. The babies responded by kicking after every noise and then vibration. After a while, without noise, only vibrations were enough to get the kicking answer. This study is a testament to what babies have learned in the womb, but it takes a regular repetition to learn. These repetitions leave some effects on your baby’s subconscious. Therefore, excessive fears detected in adults, obsessions, such as some behavioral disorders can be moaned in the process of researching the mother’s abdomen and especially until the moment of birth.
In another study, the effect of smoking on infant behavior was investigated, while the mother’s stress was detected every time she thought about smoking. In that case, the baby’s heart rate was accelerating. This tension occurs even when the mother thinks about smoking without smoking. Of course, the baby can’t see if your mother smokes, but since her brain develops well enough, she can make the connection between smoking and the negative effects she creates herself. He knows this from the bad effects of the oxygen level falling in the blood on the mother. Worse, the psychological effects on the baby are very important. He experiences chronic uncertainty and fear. He won’t know when or how violent this painful event will be. Repeated and similar negative events create conditional tension-irritability syndrome that is deeply subconscious in it. (Maybe that’s why some of our babies are eating the stigma of grumpy and restless babies as soon as they’re born?)
The best part about this information is that we can use conditional learning in a positive way. A conscious family can have lasting positive effects on their babies with all these awareness. The best example of this is the baby listening and learning music in the womb. Babies who listen to calm music in the womb relax with this music and learn this music. No matter how tense and crying they are after childbirth, they respond to this music with relaxation. (We have come across such experiences in our families who are educated. The important thing here is the repetition of the same music.)
When they asked a musician when he was interested in music during the interview, they asked him to explain when he said it started in the womb. This pianist realized that even though he had a piece that he had never played, he could see the notes of this piece and even play instantly before opening the notes pages. Then, when he went over it, his research went all the way to his life in the womb. She learned that her mother, who was a pianist like herself, was always playing this piece when she was pregnant with her.
One example of positive effect is that your mother feels safe. Trust is the most valuable gift that can be given to our mothers both during pregnancy and during childbirth. All positive effects in the mother, who feel loved, valued and protected, are both naturally passed to the baby and can be given consciously. Mothers who create a safe and warm environment affect their babies’ lives in advanced life thanks to the positive effect they create with their emotions, dreams, dreams and thoughts.
At this stage, everything that affects the mother also affects the baby. The biggest problem encountered during pregnancy is a father candidate who rejects his wife, does not value it and imposes full responsibility for pregnancy on the mother. This concept gives the father a great responsibility in the development of the baby’s character while in the womb. The task expected of them is not really too great; to give the mother love and trust, to communicate with the baby. Early intercourse with the baby gives the mother confidence and love, which is the beginning of positive effects in the baby.
Now we know that if babies are bonded, they know their father when they are still in the womb. In addition to what we read about this, our experiences in our own patients prove to us that the father-baby relationship can be achieved in the womb. So even when babies are in the womb, they can recognize their father, who gives him love and speaks to him, even in the first moments of birth. Even in the first minutes after birth, babies can recognize their father’s voice. Which makes them feel like I’m safe. Therefore, it is vital that the baby is associated with the mother’s lap and voice in order to feel safe in the first minutes of her meeting with the world after birth. In cases where the mother cannot provide this (caesarean section, fainting, such as) the father should take on this task.
This early father-baby bond is important for self-confidence in the father and the deletion of negative effects from the past. In addition, this early bond breaks this vicious cycle in fathers who tend to spend time outside frequently with their boyfriends, especially in terms of respect and value after birth. They become fathers who spend time with their baby, communicate with them, are aware of their responsibilities.
yes, they’re trying to relate to you when your babies are in the womb. They use more mobility than words to make their voices heard. They want you to rest when you’re so tired. They react by not playing for it. They express their discomfort by overplaying in a loud bad music. When you’re at peace, they accompany you with calm moves and feel loving. When you’re hungry, they react with silence and encourage you to eat. And who knows what they’re doing that we don’t know yet.
Babies’ needs in the womb are not as complicated as the older ones. All they want is to feel loved, to know that they’re in a safe environment. Feel yourself in a room for 9 months in an emotional, tactile and social environment where all your needs are unmet. You feel abandoned. Your health and social structure gradually deteriorate. Nine months from now, it’s clear how negative you’ll be affected. Babies feel the same situation when not enough communication is established. They ask you for something very simple to prevent it; to touch them and talk to them. Believe me, you’ll even discover the effects of such a simple communication in the first minutes of childbirth. From the moment your babies feel your voice and heart beats, they will feel wholeheartedly that they have stepped into a reliable world, and they will start life with more positive support.
We need to respect our babies before they are born and increase their peace in the womb by organizing our own lives. The mother’s abdomen, the moment of birth and your effects on your baby at the age of 3 will determine their future.